Loneliness and Being Alone
People generally connect and confuse these terms all of the
time. They assume that someone who's alone is lonely, and that the only time
someone can feel lonely is if they are alone. Both thoughts could not be further
from the truth. Being alone is a physical state where you're by yourself and
nobody else is around. It is not projected as negative or positive, it’s only a
descriptor that says you're by yourself. So what’s the difference between Loneliness
and Being Alone.
Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional
response to isolation. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a
lack of connection or communication with others, both in the present and often
extending into the future. Unlike the physical condition of being alone, this definition
describes a psychological state and a negative one at that. When you are
lonely, you are unhappy by the fact that you are by yourself.
Being alone isn't the same thing as being lonely, and yet
some people use the two terms interchangeably. Being alone is a state of being
and being lonely is an emotional response to it. You can be alone and very
happy, but when you're lonely, you long for a change.
How do they relate to one another?
So, does loneliness follow being alone? No, not necessarily.
Someone could be alone and not be lonely. In actuality, some folks prefer to be
alone. They are comfortable in their own presence and do not especially like
others to disturb their peace.
In contrast, does somebody who's lonely need to be alone to
feel like that? For example, you don't feel a strong connection with your
partner, so you barely talk while in each other's company. It is possible,
then, to be sitting right next to them and feel lonely.
There are advantages of being alone
Some matters are better managed exclusively in private. If
you are religious and feel a connection to God, that is something you practice
by yourself. Or, if you perform your civic duty by voting, that's also
something that you do without having another person standing next to you.
Even in the event that you don't require solitude, being
alone frees you from diversion if you are working intently on a job which needs
focus. Sometimes it helps to have no one around when you are trying to
concentrate. And, again, some folks prefer to be alone. They enjoy the peace
and quiet over the noise and busyness of being around others.
What can you do if you don’t enjoy being lonely?
It is great if you prefer to be alone, but what happens if
you do not? But, if you are alone and starting to feel lonely try one of these
Get around people who you share things in common.
Do something you like that occupies your time.
Take a course that interests you.
Eliminate the sadness and depressed feelings and boost your feel-good
hormones by doing some deep breathing exercises.
Perhaps you live long distance from your loved ones and
friends and can not simply pay them a visit. It is still possible to call them
and video chat. Additionally if you have internet access you can skype with
them. Rather than feeling sorry for yourself, use your alone time wisely. Take
care of something you have been meaning to do for a while. Not only will your
list get smaller, but you will feel better because you are being productive.
Do what you like
Take your mind off the fact that you just feel down. Read
something uplifting. If you prefer to garden, then plant something and watch it
come to life. Entertain yourself. Listen to some encouraging music. If you like
to dance, turn on the radio sing out loud and dance around your place. Get
moving instead of sitting around allowing negative thoughts to consume you.
Just keep in mind that you are only as lonely or alone as
you allow yourself to be. It’s all up to you. If you allow people in your space
or keep them out. Therefore, if you do not like where you are, change it. Kick
loneliness to the curb and start living!