Though Rachel Lindsay is honoring her settlement to not talk about why she had a falling out with Raven Gates, she did additional deal with the scenario in her new e book.
For practically three years now, followers have been dying to know what occurred between Rachel Lindsay and Raven Gates. Sadly, Rachel continues to be conserving the tea near the vest. “Once I ended the friendship with Raven, I made an settlement to not communicate publicly about what occurred between us,” Rachel writes in her new e book, Miss Me With That. “I intend to honor that settlement. Apart from to say that I discovered myself in a scenario the place I felt the necessity to shield and take away myself, these are the one particulars I’m going to supply. That is my enterprise. That is Raven’s enterprise. This isn't for anyone else to know. Your curiosity doesn't trump my integrity.”
Rachel and Raven met once they have been each contestants on Nick Viall’s season of The Bachelor, which aired at first of 2017. They continued to hang around after the present ended, popping up on one another’s Instagrams in pictures very often. Raven even went on to begin relationship Adam Gottschalk, who was a contestant on Rachel’s season of The Bachelorette, and received Rachel’s blessing to pursue the connection (the 2 are now married). Nonetheless, by 2019, Rachel and Raven started to be noticeably absent on one another’s Instagram pages. When Raven didn’t attend Rachel’s bachelorette celebration that summer season, followers knew one thing was up.
In Oct. 2019, Rachel was asked about what happened throughout an interview on Watch What Occurs Dwell with Andy Cohen. As soon as once more, she defined that she wouldn’t be sharing what went down. “I can’t say,” Rachel revealed. “I promised I wouldn’t say, however it was sufficient for me to not wish to be associates along with her anymore.” She additionally confirmed that she would “by no means” be associates with Raven once more after the falling out.
In her e book, Rachel recalled being “trashed” by Bachelor Nation followers for her response within the interview. “They went as far as to name Raven the larger individual, as she did interviews claiming to do not know why I used to be upset along with her and that she missed our friendship,” Rachel defined. “Although it was clear that I’m the one who ended that relationship, I don’t get the good thing about the doubt that I had a superb cause to take action.”
Rachel additionally went approach again to the start of her friendship with Raven on The Bachelor, and introduced up a “crimson flag” that she seen whereas filming the present. “Raven was all the time writing in her journal,” Rachel wrote. “One night time, she learn aloud her first-night impressions of every of us. ‘Rachel – she has black pores and skin. And he or she appears good.'” The previous lawyer recalled her emotions when Raven learn that out loud. “What the f***?” she puzzled. “Who says that s***? Not solely do you assume it, however you really say it out loud for individuals to listen to? Of all of the methods you can describe me, that’s what you got here up with? You ain’t ever seen a Black individual earlier than? Like, by no means seen considered one of us up shut? Like I’m out right here within the wild like a gorilla?”
On the time, Rachel determined to not deal with the scenario “like [she] might need in [her] regular life.” She additionally stated she opted to offer Raven the “advantage of the doubt” due to her upbringing in small-town Arkansas. After that, Rachel stated that it “stunned” her how shut she received with Raven, and particularly how a lot the connection resonated with followers.
Nonetheless, she’s holding sturdy to her resolution to not share the main points of their falling out. “Bachelor Nation has already made assumptions about what occurred between us and has made me the one within the unsuitable, as soon as once more,” Rachel shared. “I owe nobody on this franchise my time, consideration or care. I particularly refuse to offer Bachelor Klan — without end thirsty to forged the white girl as a sufferer and the Black girl as her tormentor — any further ammunition to take my phrases and use them towards me. You knew how shut Raven and I have been. You could possibly see the ache our estrangement brought about her. And but refused to acknowledge mine.”
At one different level within the e book, Rachel reminisced about speaking to Raven on the telephone earlier than she left to movie The Bachelorette. She remembered that the pep speak made her really feel “good and prepared” to start the journey. “That was how shut we have been…till we weren’t,” Rachel defined. “It's humorous — you actually don't get to know individuals from the franchise, uncover who they're, and be taught who your folks are till a few yr or two after the present ends.” And that’s that!