Are you really struggling after a relationship breakup? Well, you’re not alone. Anyone who says it’s easy to deal with a breakup is either faking it or they were never really in love. The truth is, when a relationship breaks up, there is often a lot of heartache and trauma. How you deal with that is completely dependent on whether you want to rekindle your relationship or you simply want to find a way of moving on and live your life without your ex.
Assuming you actually want to make up with your ex, there are some simple steps that you can take to make this happen. Obviously, there will be days and weeks when you are on your own after the relationship breakup, but the last thing that you should do during this time is to panic and despair.
What’s good to know is that it is these days and weeks, that will prepare you for a successful makeup with your ex and, more importantly, help you keep them. So accept that your relationship has broken up and do so without panicking.
What went wrong?
Your next move should be to start thinking about what went wrong. The only way you are going to successfully make up with your ex is if you explore honestly and clearly, what went wrong. If you made a mistake and don’t know how to put things right, then that’s the first thing you’ll have to deal with. If you cheated on your ex, then you need to explore for yourself why. When your mistake was that you didn’t spend enough time with your ex, you need to search yourself and decide what you can change to prove to your ex that you are serious about them.
Another point that you should keep in mind is that for some people it’s all too easy to stick with what they know rather than take that leap and move on with their lives. After relationship breakup ask yourself these questions: “Do you really want to make up with your ex because you love them? Do you want to make up with your ex because it’s easier than moving on?”
To answer these questions honestly, you will really have to do some soul searching. Above all, don’t try and rekindle a toxic relationship. The unknown is often scary, but if your relationship was not good for you or your ex, then you should seriously think about moving on. This will take courage, but in the long run, it will be the right thing to do.
Whatever you decide to do after a relationship breakup, remember, you do have a golden moment to really stop and think and consider which way you want to go: do you want to rekindle the relationship, or is it time to move on?