Tips to Mend A Broken Heart
During conversation with friends, someone asks how to mend a broken heart? It gets you thinking about your last relationship and how you were certain you had found the love of your life but you eventually messed up and she divorced you. Now you are thinking you want to try to get her back.
Since we all know you can’t change anybody but yourself, the best way to go about that is to find a way to start making the changes you need to make in yourself. Don’t think it will happen overnight because it won’t. Some people are capable of making the life changes they need to make on their own but I recommend starting off by talking to a professional, your pastor if you have one, a close friend or relative who will tell you the absolute truth even if it hurts or a counselor or maybe even joining a support group depending on what the problem was in your relationship.
If you are going to make lasting changes you need to find the training to do it. Just like going to college and earning your degree then training for your first job. You didn’t know it before you learned it or trained for it. Making a relationship last is not any different. Life is a learning process. We are all works in progress. We are not born knowing everything we need to know; especially knowing how to mend a broken heart when it’s been shattered.
When your emotional training is complete, however long it takes, then you can approach someone new. But easy does it, don’t make any drastic moves at this point. You will need to learn to trust all over again. This will all take time, probably several months at least. You shouldn’t jump right back into a relationship with anyone after being badly hurt.
Mend a Broken Heart
Say they agree to go out with you, now what? Just talk. Keep the conversation light and don’t get into anything heavy right off the bat. You will scare them off. Make them wonder what you are up to, keep them guessing. You want them to keep thinking about you after the date. Openly and honestly share with them that your heart has been broken and what you have been doing to improve yourself. Let them start to see the new you. When they see your willingness to communicate honestly, it will begin to stroke their interest. Now is the time you can tell them all about the improvements you have made in your life and why.
If they are receptive to giving you a second date, take them out on a real date and treat them like the love of your life. Also, sooner rather than later, sincerely apologize for any pain you caused them the first time around. If they forgive you, you know all your hard work you did on yourself was worth it and that they understand and trust that you figured out how to truly love again.