Forgot How To Smile?
There was a time when I forgot how to smile. I was dating the love of my life in high school. She was actually my first real girlfriend. We would hang out together, go places, do things. We really enjoyed each other’s company. And we enjoyed talking to each other. This was before smart phones and texting so we would talk to each other on the phone for hours each night.
One day she told me that she was moving to live with her father, up north. I didn’t want to let this information bother me. I figured we still had a few weeks to enjoy each other’s company. Finally, the day came. We spent the day together, quiet, not really talking a lot, and holding each other’s hands. We said our goodbyes and that was when it hit me that our relationship was really over. She was not planning on coming back.
I didn’t have my driver’s license yet, so my dad came by and picked me up to take me home. My heart was broken. I was really emotional in the car. My dad was very understanding. He said, “It’s tough isn’t it?” I said, “Yeah, it really is. But I love feeling all this strong emotion.” Weird, I know.
It was really hard to get over my broken heart. She was all I thought about for weeks. Gradually, I got around to living my life again. That was the time in my life when I forgot how to smile. I guess what I want to say is if you are going through a difficult breakup, or a lost love, I want to let you know that it doesn’t have to be forever. You can grieve. You should grieve. Lost relationships take a piece out of you. But it doesn’t have to be the end of the world.
If you have forgot how to smile, go ahead and just experience that feeling, that loss, that grief. Our emotions are here as messengers. They want to tell us something. And so our job is to experience those feelings to their fullest. Once we have done that, the feelings will begin to change or go away. It is perfectly all right to have your heart broken. Experience that pain. And then after you’ve experienced it to slowly come back out into the light to experience the real world again. I know it feels like the end of the world, but it isn’t.
When you are done grieving and want to return to the land of the living, think about all the wonderful things you have in your life. Be grateful for your blessings. Focus on helping someone else. When we help and serve others we tend to forget about ourselves and our own problems and our focus goes towards this other person that we are helping.
I learned when I forgot how to smile, that after the pain, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Life goes on. It always has. And it will for you too. Hang in there!