The Power of Words
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me". Really? This is a big lie because you and I know that while broken bones often heal without any problems, wounds inflicted by hurtful words can last a lifetime. Words possess amazing power, and whether they hurt or heal depend on how they are used. All humans, rich or poor, male or female have the power in them to hurt or heal other people because let's face it, your pet cat will not go all huffy if you call him a good for nothing . The quality of your interpersonal relationships totally depends on the words you speak to people with whom you relate. How do you tell if person is kind, condescending or obnoxious? For example what makes you like or dislike your boss, your neighbor, your mother-in-law? How do you know how someone feels about you? By the words they speak to you.
Hurt or Heal It’s Your Choice
Words are for hurting or healing; hurting or healing of the
soul. There are a lot of walking wounded on our streets; casualties of a
constant barrage of hurtful words. The thing is, sticks and stones can hurt the
body, not the soul; but words have the power to hurt the soul, and that hurt
can take its toll on the body. It is ironic that the first line of this article
is a song sung by kids, and kids are particularly vulnerable to the power of
words. Negative, hurtful words are the "kryptonite" to the superman
in every child. The high rate of teen suicides, as a result of bullying, peer
and even parental shaming is a testament to the destructive power of hurtful
words. Thank God that healing, positive, life affirming words are the antidote
for the poison of hurtful words. Phrases like "You can do it" "I
love you" "I am proud of you" bring out best in everyone. The
beauty of being able to speak these words is that you can say these words to
yourself as well as to others.
Your Life Depends On What You Say
If you have been a victim of verbal abuse, take advantage of
healing words, speak them to yourself and to others as well, spread the word.
Associate with people who affirm your value with their positive healing words
and get away from folks who constantly run you down. The best thing though is
to be the change you want to see in others so........ Like in the movie "A Thousand
Words" directed by Brian Robbins, starring Eddie Murphy, I ask you, what
words would you choose to speak if your life depended on the quantity of words
that come out of your mouth. Would you choose your words more carefully?
Remember, words are for hurting or healing.
The Power Of Praise In Relationships
Relationships are important in everyone's life. Human beings
are endowed with the ability to think and emote. This is what makes them
different from animals. Maintaining interpersonal relationships is an art as
well as a science. There is a difference between entering into a relationship
and sustaining it throughout. It is in
human nature that people have many facets to their personality. Sustaining a
relationship involves identifying the positive aspects of your partner and
appreciating these qualities. This is the power of praise which you should implant
firmly in yourself before entering into a meaningful relationship.
Praise Or Flattery?
The power of praise is something which does not come
overnight. You should know that there is an extremely thin line separating
praise and flattery. Praise is telling the other person what you think of him
or her whereas Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he or she
thinks about himself or herself. Praise is something which comes from the heart
and flattery is a thing which comes straight out of the mouth. One is sincere
and heartwarming whereas the other is insincere and untruthful. Praise is an
encouragement whereas flattery is false praise. You should understand that
overdoing of praise will end up in flattery. The right balance should be
maintained. Praise is an unselfish rendition while flattery has selfishness
written all over it.
Do You Understand The Words Coming Out Of My Mouth?
A person who understands these basic differences is said to have mastered the power of praise. You should understand your limitations as no one is born perfect in this world. The beauty of sustaining a relationship is in accepting a person the way he or she is. This is true love and this point has to be practiced by everyone in love. This is easier said than done. However is there any harm in attempting to learn this aspect of relationships? The answer should be an emphatic "NO". This is true of any relationship and all the more in case one is considering dating. Dating is considered to be the first step towards a lifelong relationship. If you falter at the initial step, imagine what the future would be. You have to be honest about yourself as well and should be strong enough to take praise and criticism as two sides of the same coin. You should know how to use the power of praise judiciously. The positive aspects of your partner should be highlighted whereas the negative aspects should be corrected in a subtle way without offending his or her feelings. Maintaining the perfect balance is the key to a successful and long-lasting relationship. You should know, what to say, when to say it and how to say it. That is the power of praise.
The words 'thank you' and 'I appreciate you' may seem
simple, but for those who have heard them know that they work wonders. How did
you feel the last time that you gave a coin to a beggar and they were thankful?
Personally, I added another coin just to hear the same words again. The same
goes for relationships. As Steve Harvey indicated in one of his books, there
are three ways that a man shows his love. One of them happened to be in the way
he provides for his family, being the breadwinner. When he provides, he feels
like a man. But when you show him that you actually appreciate what he is doing
for you, he feels more than a man...can you say superman? He gets motivated to
do more for his family. That simple thank you' gave him wings to fly into space
and bring you the moon.
How To Wrap Him Around Your Finger
Obviously, when he is happy, he will make you happy too.
That's the joy of gratitude. For every action, there is an equal and opposite
reaction. Ladies, this is a physics law which does not work in any aspect of a
relationship. When a man goes out his way to buy you a sac celine for your
birthday and all you do is nag and complain how it is not your color, you do
not deserve that man by your side. You need a color wheel beside you. For every
positive action, it definitely deserves a much more positive reaction. Men
please DO NOT complain of how bad your lady cooks. Be grateful she makes an attempt
to cook. There are ladies who cannot boil water. If she is that bad, then try
scheduling for cooking classes that you can attend together as a couple. If
anyone must complain. Please try to look for a solution so that you can move forward.
The Joy Of Gratitude
Kindness is a language that the blind and the deaf can
understand. Gratitude is part of being kind and if you only knew how much
appreciation is appreciated you would do it quite often. Be thankful for the
positive and the negatives in your life. Your messed-up previous relationship happened
to help you understand the mistakes you did, and so that you can be cautious in
your next one. There are two sides of every coin, technically, there are three
if you are counting the curved side. Whichever side you are facing its worth
being grateful for. So smile at your pain, sorrows, joys, and achievements today.
It’s only then that you will recognize the joy of gratitude.
Forming Lasting Relationships
If you are in a relationship, you can attest to the fact
that it is both wonderful and scary. It is wonderful because you have someone
to share the little splendors of life. You have someone to call when everything
goes wrong because you will get all the comfort you need. The scary part lies
in the expectation of danger. This is a gut feeling that your relationship will
eventually end someday. The feeling usually goes away as you continue to spend
time with your partner and realize it was all in your head. Note that expectation of danger is a feeling
that may recur, especially when you are faced with hard questions concerning
What Is Your Relationship Saying?
Every relationship has a story and the biggest question you
may have to answer is what story is your relationship telling to the world? Is
it that of love conquering all obstacles or is it one of despair? Can a
stranger look at you and your partner and believe in true love? To truthfully
answer these questions, you have to look inside yourself and be as candid as
possible. You do not have to wait for
your relationship to be on the rocks to start searching for answers, you can
start now. In fact, the best time to truthfully answer any hard questions you
may have is when the tide in your relationship seems smooth. The reason is that
when both you and your partner are going through pure bliss, you are more
accommodating towards any difficult questions and concerns regarding your love
Your Relationships Are Your Legacy
Before asking your partner to give his opinion on the kind
of story your relationship tells, search yourself. Think about the time you met
and what struck you the most about your partner. Think of the first fight you
had and whether your partner was quick to sweep your issues under the carpet or
was ready to argue till you both found a solution. Did both of you focus on the
problem rather than pointing out each other's weaknesses? Now that you have taken a look at the early
stages of your relationship, consider the progress you have made so far. Think
of the number of months or years you have been together and whether you are
both in it for the long haul. Consider whether your partner speaks in terms of us
instead of I and you. If your partner often uses us, you definitely have a love
story to tell for generations to come!