If you are like most people, you may have spent much of your adult life searching for your soulmate. You might feel that your dissatisfaction in relationships comes from never finding "the one" that you were meant to be with for the rest of your life. This belief is rooted in ancient thought, including the theory that humans were originally created as individuals with four arms, four legs, and two sets of genitalia--but with only one soul. When they angered the gods by trying to usurp their authority, Zeus divided each of them in half, forcing them to spend the rest of their lives searching for the one who possesses the half to complete them.  Frantically seeking to answer the question, do we really have soulmates?

Are Soulmates Real?

Along with the belief in soulmates comes the many ways to tell if you have found your soulmate. Do you feel like you have known each other forever? You finish each others' sentences. Often times you feel as though you cannot live without the other. However, those feelings that are often associated with the beginning of a relationship (the infatuation phase), eventually fade. Without a solid foundation, the relationship eventually falls apart and will leave you thinking that either this was not your soulmate after all or that you have lost your soulmate forever and will never be happy.

Relationship Realities

While the belief in soulmates makes for interesting conversation, beautiful love songs and quirky romantic comedies, it can be severely limiting in the realm of reality to know do we really have soulmates? Truth is that relationships are what you make them. Two people who want to make things work, even if they're from different planets, can make it work. It takes patience, time, communication, forgiveness and trust to build a love that will last.

Stop Limiting Your Possibilities

If you came to this post to hopefully, definitively answer the question "Do we really have soulmates?" Maybe we do have soul mates, maybe we do not. You should not limit your relationship and marriage prospects simply because you do not feel like you were created as 'half' of a person. If you find someone who shares your interests, who you can laugh with, cry with, and just be yourself with, sometimes that is good enough. Start there, and build your lives together. Life should not be about looking for someone who doesn't exist.

Searching For Your Soulmate

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Theodore Lovelace holds a degree with an emphasis in political science and communication. Having worked in the counseling field for over thirty years, Mr. Lovelace has provided counseling services for individuals, couples, and families.


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