The concept of intellectual foreplay was developed by Eve Eschner Hogan and Steven Hoganin their book Intellectual Foreplay: A Book of Questions for Lovers and Lovers-to-Be (Hunter House, 2000). The point of intellectual foreplay is asking the right questions to discover a person’s values and beliefs and see if you’re willing to keep moving forward in the relationship. There are multiple ways in which you can engage in intellectual foreplay and not make it seem like you’re directly judging a person.
Another way in which you can get involved in intellectual foreplay is by watching a movie with dramatic themes. Certain movies spark deep conversations that range from gender roles to race to the meaning of life. The next time that you go out on a date to the movies, be intentional. One simple movie ticket can save you future heartaches or give you a lifetime of love.
Demands and Expectations
Take time to find true beauty in a person.