Appreciate You

Self-acceptance can be one of the hardest obstacles to overcome when you are starting a new relationship, or even years into an existing one. It isn’t simply tolerating the person that you see in the mirror every day, it is about loving that person. People who are confident about themselves might suggest very plain and simple advice: appreciate you just the way you are. That can be easier said than done though. If you do not take the time to address the real issues at work here, they will continually decimate your relationships.

The trouble with offering advice to you, is that it is hard to say what the main issue is. Instead it might be easier to touch on a few common issues that trouble both men and women and cause them to lose confidence in themselves. Primarily, the most common catalysts for low self-esteem are: prior abusive relationships, troubled emotional upbringings, children of divorce and pressures from the world around you to change the person that you are. Let’s evaluate these issues one by one, and see if maybe you can start you down a road to loving yourself to…… Appreciate you!

Abusive romantic relationships can be draining and they can haunt you for years. This is not just an issue for women, but many men are plagued by emotionally and verbally abusive relationships. If you were a victim, you need to understand that you carry a considerable ‘carry-on bag’ into every relationship. You have to know that everyone is not the same, and you can find a man or woman that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Abuse isn’t always from romantic relationships, and your parents could also play a significant role in how you feel about yourself as an adult. Without positive reinforcement and encouraging words about your favorable traits and appearance, you might feel as though you don’t deserve to be complimented. But, you do deserve to be complimented, and you should know now that you are worth someone’s time so……. Appreciate you!

Divorce can be a tough road to go down, whether you were brought up in a split home or simply have gone through a messy divorce of your own. Children of divorce often have no real knowledge of how a functioning relationship works, or even what to look for in a respectable mate. Surrounding yourself with negative people and those that selfishly only care for themselves can take you to a very low place.

Magazines, television, and movies only promote a certain image for women and men. There are two important things to consider when you allow publications and the silver screen to dictate your self-worth. Each and every one of those celebrities are just like you, the difference is they have a team of people who have the sole task of making them look perfect before every shoot. Don’t have a dozen stylists of your own? Yeah most people don’t.

The second thing to consider is that the magazines that are ruining your self-esteem aren’t talking about all the different kinds of ‘beautiful’ there are, nor are they focusing on inner beauty. Everything isn’t so cookie cutter and you should not change a thing about yourself that you or your partner do not feel should be changed, remember…… Appreciate you!

The bottom line is, learning to love yourself isn’t going to happen overnight. Start with something that you really like about yourself. Love that part of you without question, whether it’s your sense of humor or your shoulders, it is an important first step. Tomorrow, think about another part of your body or your personality that you enjoy. You will find that as you do this, you should become less judgmental about yourself and even begin accepting yourself just the way that you are.

Appreciate You

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